By Ila Ananya

Shaadi.com has a new survey.

Reports say it was done to understand what makes people say ‘yes’ in relationships, so it reached out to around 6,800 people who found their partners on the website, 47 percent of whom were women, and 53 percent of whom were men.

They were asked, among other things, the top three questions of utmost importance that they asked prospective partners before saying yes. They seemed to be the same questions for men and women, just phrased a little bit differently. Funnily enough, the phrasing of the questions changes the meaning entirely, showing that the men and women surveyed seem to want completely different things from their marriages.

Here are the top three questions, guess who asked which.

Q – Do you live in a joint or nuclear family?

Q – Are you willing to live with my family?

A – 36 percent of women asked men if they lived in a joint or nuclear family. 36 percent of men asked women if they were willing to live with their family.

We don’t see any women asking if the men would move into their family, because of course that can never be the practice. Also it reminds us of the ridiculous Bharat Matrimony #MyWifeToBe question about why women should be willing to live with men in a joint family.  But it seems that men essentially seemed to be shouting, ‘I’m important, so if you don’t want to live with my family, which will teach us all how to have so much affection, then this won’t work out.’

Q – Will you be supportive of my career?

Q – Do you plan to work after marriage?

A – 30 percent of women surveyed asked men if they’d be supportive of their career. 34 percent of men asked if women had any plans of working.

We all know this one. Just the fact that women think it’s important to ask this question is indicative of a huge worry about possible pressure not to work, which is all too common. We’re not even sure why men need to ask that question so shadily, though, as though they’re anticipating the worst.

Q – Can you cook?

Q – Can you cook?

A – Okay we know that’s the same question, but here’s the difference in percentages. 26 percent of women asked men if they can cook, while 19 percent of men asked women that.

Obviously it means women expect men to be sharing housework, rather than sitting with their feet up and complaining about all the housework not done. Men, though, seem to be worried about their own stomachs.

We all know the all too familiar ‘eats shoots and leaves,’ and ‘eats, shoots and leaves’ joke. This time the joke is on the men.