And if for some complex reason you decide/choose/have to go back, don't beat yourself over it.Just like beginning a relationship is a process, leaving is also a process.Each person follows a path that works for the,some can leave and never look back, others end up doing a bit of back and forth.There is no single route, your safety is most important, when the time is right ,you will do it.
If you are supporting someone who is trying to leave,DO NOT take charge of their lives, you will only be replicating what the abuser has done to them.Be there as an unconditional supporter, it can be painful to watch someone being abused, it has to be their decision and they have to feel in control.Does not mean you condone the violence, it is being a solid ally and act when the time is right.xx
Ladies Finger: Maybe an article on what not to do when a friend discloses violence in their current relationship.
The link in point 18 is dead, please update it with this one instead:
@theladiesfinger one of the biggest reasons people enter abusive non platonic relationships is because it was normalised before hand.
@theladiesfinger would request an article or several sometime on non sexual abuse in platonic situations like family or friendship too.