This week we had the very useful 10-step guide to creating a legal case to fight domestic violence without a lawyer via Chayn. Over on Twitter we asked for tried-and-tested suggestions to escape abuse. What we got is a storm of tips, listed below for convenience.
1. Since escaping abuse is easier early on, watch out for controlling behaviour and disrespect of boundaries. It escalates.
3. It’s always important to know our rights – especially in a foreign land, and where we don’t have our own support system.
4. The toughest part in an abusive relationship is trying to remember: “You are more important than the person whom you love.”
5. Don’t let go of skills. Even if you’re not allowed to work at the moment, find ways to keep up. Call it a ‘hobby’. Do it quietly.
6. Resist all efforts at isolating you. Watch out for places with reduced mobility and attempts to move away from your support system.
7. Don’t let go control of daily stuff like personal bank accounts, cards, pin numbers and passwords, even in non-abusive relationships.
8. This was also a great intervention in understanding and preventing domestic abuse: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/training/wheels.html
9. Avoid those who say “adjust” only to you.
10. Women who can call, should call ICall Helpline (+ 91-22-25563291) from anywhere in the world for counselling, can also send emails (firstname.lastname@example.org).
Have more tips? Add them in comments below or mail us at fingerzine AT gmail DOT com